Here are 5 reasons why you shouldnt be a perfectionist

Here are 5 reasons why you shouldnt be a perfectionistHere are 5 reasons why you shouldnt be a perfectionistWe are constantly being fed media images of perfect bodies, perfect families, perfect wardrobes, perfect jobs and so on. This tricks us into accepting that we need to be perfect in this world at all times. But very few of us are ever perfect, and even if people look perfect on the outside, we all know that no one really knows what is actually going on behind the scenes. So dont always trust what you see on Instagram and Facebook. Instead, a crucial part of real happiness is learning to accept being good enough.Most of Top Life Coach Carole Ann Rices work focuses on making people the best versions of themselves. And with that in mind, today she shares 5 reasons why perfectionism is bad for you, and why you should steer clear of unrealistic standards.1. Accepting imperfection makes you happierWhen we let go of the stereotypical ideas of perfection and get real, we immediately dep arture to feel a lot happier. Youll be relieved when you realise its totally okay to give up on perfection. There will always be someone who you think has more, or who is better than you, no matter how much greatness life gives you. With the constant pressure around us, especially from the media, we can end up endlessly comparing ourselves to others - and when we compare, we despair.2. Perfectionism wastes your time and energyOften people who are constantly worried about perfectionism waste a lot of time sweating the small stuff, continually worrying about saying or doing the wrong thing. This is not a positive motivator - its exhausting and motivation driven by shame and self-loathing. So, rather than being perfect, aim for personal progress instead of perfect results, and dont punish yourself at every turn.3. Keep your relationships in perspectiveFrom casual friendships to long lasting marriages, theres no such thing as a ?perfect relationship. As long as youre not a toxic friend, its perfectly normal to have different friendships with different people, and theyll naturally change and shift overtime. And as for romantic relationships, if you cant accept compromise and be pragmatic, you wont be happy for long.4. Dont obsess over the state of your sex lifeToday many have incredibly unrealistic expectations of what sex is like and how we should be having it. It isnt reasonable or necessary to look and feel amazing 100% of the time real intimacy is about working out what suits both partners and making sure youre both content. Thats whatll make you happy in the long run. You want to feel comfortable with your partner and vice versa.5. Dont be a competitive parentWeve never been as neurotic about bringing up children as we are now. We didnt use to be expected to entertain children 24/7, and we werent obliged to take care over very tiny details of a childs day. We need to go back to trusting our instincts as parents and stop endlessly comparing ourselves to what lo oks like perfection on Instagram. Again, you dont know whats going on behind closed doors, or how those mommys and families really feel. Focus on what works for you and your kids alone.This article was originally published on Your Coffee Break.